I can't thank you enough for writing about this personal peeve of mine. One of my co-workers with whom I must communicate numerous times a day via text constantly leaves out context and references to whatever subject is being addressed. Often times a number of different subjects are part of the thread with lengthy delays between answers and responses. I don't know how many times I've responded in exasperation, "I am NOT a mind reader"! Such a time waster to have to exchange 3 or more texts to clarify what is being said, when one back and forth text, if communicated properly, is all that would have been needed.
Oh, and I just love it when I get a photo with no description and have to play 20 questions to get a clear answer. More than once I've considered this person may be passive-aggressive since it happens so often.🤦♀️
I probably err by giving too much information, but much of what I need to know requires specific answers or things will go off the rails real quick. Last week this person and I spent nearly 1 and half hours texting back and forth on a question which, if he had asked it properly, should have taken 2 texts and less than a minute. Instead, the way he asked the question led me completely off course so that I was answering a totally different question than the one he intended to ask, but worded in such a way that what he asked was not what he meant. My grandmother used to say "Go by what I mean, not what I say". IOW be a mind reader. ha ha It's a wonder I'm not bald or in the loony bin.
JAYSUS. YES, To this! I have become increasingly angry at the assumption that I am a mind reader. Or perhaps that I should be devoting all of my brain space to someone else’s stuff. I need context and reference points to provide my full attention and grasp to whatever topic is before me. I feel increasingly like it’s a game of gotcha. The feeling I am left with if I ask for clarification is that I am the bad person who is not paying attention . It’s a weird form of one upping.
I can't thank you enough for writing about this personal peeve of mine. One of my co-workers with whom I must communicate numerous times a day via text constantly leaves out context and references to whatever subject is being addressed. Often times a number of different subjects are part of the thread with lengthy delays between answers and responses. I don't know how many times I've responded in exasperation, "I am NOT a mind reader"! Such a time waster to have to exchange 3 or more texts to clarify what is being said, when one back and forth text, if communicated properly, is all that would have been needed.
Oh, and I just love it when I get a photo with no description and have to play 20 questions to get a clear answer. More than once I've considered this person may be passive-aggressive since it happens so often.🤦♀️
I hate this behavior. It's disrespectful as hell.
I do not do this to people I'm texting.
I probably err by giving too much information, but much of what I need to know requires specific answers or things will go off the rails real quick. Last week this person and I spent nearly 1 and half hours texting back and forth on a question which, if he had asked it properly, should have taken 2 texts and less than a minute. Instead, the way he asked the question led me completely off course so that I was answering a totally different question than the one he intended to ask, but worded in such a way that what he asked was not what he meant. My grandmother used to say "Go by what I mean, not what I say". IOW be a mind reader. ha ha It's a wonder I'm not bald or in the loony bin.
I have really been paying close attention to this in recent months and I do think it’s a form of passive aggressiveness.
JAYSUS. YES, To this! I have become increasingly angry at the assumption that I am a mind reader. Or perhaps that I should be devoting all of my brain space to someone else’s stuff. I need context and reference points to provide my full attention and grasp to whatever topic is before me. I feel increasingly like it’s a game of gotcha. The feeling I am left with if I ask for clarification is that I am the bad person who is not paying attention . It’s a weird form of one upping.