The backstory to this little back and forth on Substack Notes is tedious, but you can look it up using the names you see below if you’re interested. This is Cluster B, a prime illustration of their tactics. This woman is an aggressive, Robin DiAngelo-style white woman. Her online presence centers around her race and social activism. She presents herself as the penitent white woman who has learned how essentially evil she is, and (look at the good I do!) the “work” she’s putting in to repent.
The irony is really rich here. A woman who had the astonishing good fortune of a loving mother, and then lost her in a tragic way, complaining to *you* and weaponizing that loss in conversation with *you*. It's as if an American millionaire became poor and then demanded sympathy from a North Korean.
It took me a while to figure out, but now when I engage with narcissists etc online, I make sure to point out their utter lack of empathy or sympathy for anyone not just like them. When it comes down to it, they really don’t care how their demands affect others.
Oops, I just located Chandra’s Sub-stack blog, the civil rights power couple would be her maternal grandparents. I also learned that Chandra is “a highly emotion-driven and intuitive Cancer Sun, Leo Moon.” I bet this self-described “feisty and spirited woman” is just a joy to be around...
"Upon moving back to the mainland U.S. in the early 1980s, my mother enrolled me at the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. School in Cambridge, Massachusetts where I was taught in Kindergarten and first grade by Dr. Randolph Ward, former San Diego County Superintendent of Schools. He was a very tall, handsome and proud man who donned an afro and appeared to be Black Jesus to this fatherless girl."
She accused me of imitating a white man, lol. Because I confronted her, I guess. Logic is a purely male domain, apparently.
Why on earth would you brag openly about being “highly emotion-driven?” Especially if you’re female. I’ve spent my whole life proving my female sex is not an impediment to my ability to reason. She’s not just making herself look bad, she’s making women look like lunatics.
One track mind, that one. It's comical because it's all she's got.
She really is one of the most severe of this type of disordered personality I've seen in a long time. Even normies can see it. This is definitely not making women as women look bad, at least in my eyes.
That's not what "women are like," it's a way "women are like when they go bad psychologically." The same is true for men with PDs who get violent or pugnacious in a way that's almost cartoonish. That's what men look like when they go sour in the mind and character.
I know I don’t have to tell *you* this, but no one should ever assume that a woman like this won’t get physically violent, either.
I guess I can understand why so many men hate feminism, especially if women like her are their only exposure to it. Well, I know there’s a bit of a revival of old school feminism happening in the UK and (less so) in the US. Reasonable women who understand that men don’t actually owe them anything.
Professional victims and professional advocates are both gross.
All narcissists are prone to violence. They can’t self regulate. Usually it starts with throwing shit. They test and push to see how much abuse you’ll endure, incrementally increasing the violence of their acting out. They have very little empathy for those close to them, as their role is to be the receptacle for all their toxic garbage and return only admiration, love, and support.
It’s very sad. She likely does know how to be any other way.
Still gross. Still poor adjustment. This is a horrible thought, but if she’s this covered in narcissistic armor, I have to wonder if losing her mom meant much more than an avenue to gain attention for herself. Maybe she was the “one person she trusted” or something. I’ve known narcissistic people like that. In truth, Mom was the only person that put up with them.
The irony is really rich here. A woman who had the astonishing good fortune of a loving mother, and then lost her in a tragic way, complaining to *you* and weaponizing that loss in conversation with *you*. It's as if an American millionaire became poor and then demanded sympathy from a North Korean.
It took me a while to figure out, but now when I engage with narcissists etc online, I make sure to point out their utter lack of empathy or sympathy for anyone not just like them. When it comes down to it, they really don’t care how their demands affect others.
“A Civil Rights Power Couple”? Is she referring to herself and her partner? 🙄
She's referring to her grandparents 🤷 She's off her rocker.
Her picture is creepy.
She appears to be completely detached from reality.
Honestly she looks like she’s in the middle of a hypomanic episode
Oops, I just located Chandra’s Sub-stack blog, the civil rights power couple would be her maternal grandparents. I also learned that Chandra is “a highly emotion-driven and intuitive Cancer Sun, Leo Moon.” I bet this self-described “feisty and spirited woman” is just a joy to be around...
♫ Maybe she's born with it. . .
. . . maybe it's Cluster B!
"Upon moving back to the mainland U.S. in the early 1980s, my mother enrolled me at the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. School in Cambridge, Massachusetts where I was taught in Kindergarten and first grade by Dr. Randolph Ward, former San Diego County Superintendent of Schools. He was a very tall, handsome and proud man who donned an afro and appeared to be Black Jesus to this fatherless girl."
(pinches self)
This *has* to be a parody.
https://chandrahardy.substack.com/p/acknowledgements?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=reader2
So her dad wasn't around and she is a single parent. You don't have to be Freud to figure out why she's turned her hatred of white men into a career!
She accused me of imitating a white man, lol. Because I confronted her, I guess. Logic is a purely male domain, apparently.
Why on earth would you brag openly about being “highly emotion-driven?” Especially if you’re female. I’ve spent my whole life proving my female sex is not an impediment to my ability to reason. She’s not just making herself look bad, she’s making women look like lunatics.
One track mind, that one. It's comical because it's all she's got.
She really is one of the most severe of this type of disordered personality I've seen in a long time. Even normies can see it. This is definitely not making women as women look bad, at least in my eyes.
That's not what "women are like," it's a way "women are like when they go bad psychologically." The same is true for men with PDs who get violent or pugnacious in a way that's almost cartoonish. That's what men look like when they go sour in the mind and character.
I know I don’t have to tell *you* this, but no one should ever assume that a woman like this won’t get physically violent, either.
I guess I can understand why so many men hate feminism, especially if women like her are their only exposure to it. Well, I know there’s a bit of a revival of old school feminism happening in the UK and (less so) in the US. Reasonable women who understand that men don’t actually owe them anything.
Professional victims and professional advocates are both gross.
I’d bet money she’s violent.
Someone like that almost always is.
All narcissists are prone to violence. They can’t self regulate. Usually it starts with throwing shit. They test and push to see how much abuse you’ll endure, incrementally increasing the violence of their acting out. They have very little empathy for those close to them, as their role is to be the receptacle for all their toxic garbage and return only admiration, love, and support.
“…look like when they go sour in the mind and character”
Josh, I want to remember and use that description.
Now I'm waitin' for someone to introduce me to a power throuple.
Still making it about her.
https://substack.com/profile/39654977-chandra-hardy/note/c-14963045
Totally crackers. One of the most extreme of the type in recent memory.
Always. If she does have any empathy or sympathy, she saves it for ideas, not real people.
She only saves those for herself.
It’s very sad. She likely does know how to be any other way.
Still gross. Still poor adjustment. This is a horrible thought, but if she’s this covered in narcissistic armor, I have to wonder if losing her mom meant much more than an avenue to gain attention for herself. Maybe she was the “one person she trusted” or something. I’ve known narcissistic people like that. In truth, Mom was the only person that put up with them.
Oh for sure.
Sounds like the men closest to her in her life whether that be a father, husband, etc weren’t there or even worse hence her open hostility to males.
The only person left to fill all voids was then her mother. Perhaps the mother wasn’t the one devouring either.
Josh, do you have merch? F.ex. The labels with which you wallpapered Burlington?
LOL. This bitch.
Yeah!
I gave her a chance, if only to say I did. She is apparently unaware that no one owes anyone shit.
You’re gonna make me figure out Discord, aren’t you? *sigh*
I had to mute her. What a horrific and tragic person. Blech.