Recently heard about "Barnum statements" an was wondering if @Josh you had as well. Here is a video (they are trying to raise money to make a documentary) to get everyone to understand how things are just said and have no meaning anymore.
I can relate to the long process of changing your mind about a great many things; your listed views were similar to my own. Again, no radical, inorganic change for me, just a long realisation that I can be wrong, and so can the people I admire. I'm still constantly learning and changing my views, and it can be unsettling at times.
Also, the autism. And ADHD. I used to use mumsnet and fuck me sideways if everybody's kid/husband wasn't "ASD ADHD" and all that jazz. Yeah, about 1% probably. Too often it was simply over-zealous middle class women looking to explain their family's malaise in a neat and fashionable way.
Q: Ever change your mind 180 degrees about everything?
1. Born this gay — Used to think it was genetically determined (the classic, steady 10% statistic), but nowadays endocrine-altering chemicals in food/water etc. seem to be creating more androgyny.
However, the response-to-trauma theory probably has some merit, though not all children in dysfunctional families (or groups of people who are exposed to other forms of trauma) turn out gay, so maybe some predisposition exists.
That said, it’s hard to deny that bisexuality is inherent though its expression/repression is culturally contingent: exhibit A is Greco-Roman civ., ca. 1400 BC (Troy/Iliad) - 400 AD.
2. Realized that patriarchy is dead or severely wounded in last 3-4 years (ascendancy of trans movement and feminism).
3. Believed in the welfare state until Covid showed me it’s been co-opted by globalism and maybe was a scam from the beginning (though I still benefit from Disability income, food stamps and public housing so TBH I’m ambivalent).
4. Also since Covid: Republicans/Christians are generally saner than godless socialists (woke Democrats)
5. Covid also showed me that capitalism and socialism are equally dehumanizing, unworkable and cruel. Maybe the answer is small-scale communities as found in the kibbutz or among the Amish.
6. Used to think there was no necessary difference between gay/straight relationships but in recent years I’ve admitted that most gay men are too damaged to establish healthy long term relationships (I’m a textbook case). I could only name a few stable gay male couples I know personally and they’re outnumbered by comparable straight couples.
Climate/covid/trans etc. All these fake crisis are installed by co-opting our emotions for belief & altruism hence the push for the matriarchy to overcome the patriarchy.
I've only just fairly recently come around on point 1.
I really want to believe it's naturally occurring, I don't think it's *wrong*, but it isn't ideal. I found pornography early, and I was addicted immediately,
furthermore I suspect that my childhood vaccinations (16 shots) had adverse effects on me. I do live with symptoms of asd and adhd, but I'm reluctant to talk about it for basically the same reasons you mentioned... everyone claims to have it, and bringing it up has pretty much always been a mistake. I don't want to scapegoat a condition I don't have, it's pretty uncomfortable thinking about this stuff,
at this point the only thing I'm certain of is: the intentional sabotage of human beings.
I think the hacking term "exploit", is applicable to human nature and psychology. That transhumanist creep Noah Yuval Harari (misspelled probably) was bragging about how humans are hackable animals.
As you’re a stickler for language, if the menu is in fact offering a non-meat “protein”, then it makes sense to ask “which protein.” As there are large segments of the world’s population that eat a plant based diet and are, in fact, healthier than countries who center diet around domesticated meat, dairy and eggs, being culinarily aware of this isn’t being “preachy,” rather it is responding to consumer demand to have healthier menu options.
Humans have evolved with teeth, digestive systems, and metabolisms for eating and processing meat, as well as plants. We are omnivores, not herbivores. People who eat only plants and no meat are most certainly not as healthy as people who eat both plants and meat.
The biggest things I'm changing 100% on is realizing I treat myself exactly the way my mother did and a lot of things I believed very deeply about myself are actually "fake news" based on childhood programming. I am learning to treat myself as a loving mother would and bigger still to receive love. Politically I haven't changed my view points a great deal but I find myself more aligned with MAGA than the leftie I used to be. I didn't really understand what had happened to the left until Covid and that realization was very destabilizing.
I used to feel bad I hadn't gotten my life together enough to live in my then ideal location--a small leftie city that had an art scene, good locally grown food, maybe a small university etc. Now I'm glad I didn't.
I think the world is full of grey but the “machine” only accepts black and white. I also think we’re living with a lot more evil and the machine wants the evil.
First of all, A YUGE THANK YOU for calling out the everyone has autism BS. I'm sooooo tired of people being described as "on the spectrum" just because they are shy/socially awkward, etc... It is a disservice to people with actual autism and provides others with a convenient excuse for bad behavior. Re Blooming Late, I agree with you on every one of your points. Once the scales started falling they haven't stopped. AUNT KEMIMA is beyond awful. The Democrats are the party of racism.
I'm afraid he only serves Vermont. I wish I could clone him, believe me. Do check out the Open Therapy Institute for a recommendation for well-educated, non-woke therapists.
My wife got Covid a few weeks ago, and I got it from her. She felt poorly for a couple of days, but was back doing aerobics, swimming, and surfing by day three. It was harder on me--exactly like a moderate flu that kept me down for a few days, and left me a bit weakened for a week or two. But so what? Tens of thousands die of flu every year, and nobody does anything special. There is absolutely no good reason to go back to 2020 or 2021 nonsense over Covid. The only reasons are very bad ones--those in power want more, those who stand to make money want more, and those who are uninformed and afraid want everyone else to be afraid, too. It's time for all of this bullshit to stop.
"Normal, moral people are naive. They don't truly believe that evil people, or people with bad intentions, actually exist. They believe, falsely, that 'everyone is good deep down.'"
I haven't thought that for a good long time, especially not after learning about sociopathy. So for me it's not a belief that nobody could be that awful, it's a tendency to assume the benign explanation first, until a red flag or two compels me to switch to predator-detection mode.
I'll admit I didn't notice the protein thing, but I can't rule out your observation, either.
My mom is a devout Catholic oncology nurse, and for her entire life she believed this very thing - that basically, people were good. About three years ago, my grandmother (my father’s mother) came to live with my parents.
My Grandmother was something else altogether: selfish, childish, narcissistic and deeply histrionic. She was abusive to my father as a child, and the types of abuse were very similar to some you’ve shared from your childhood, which is what initially drew me to the podcast. He had never told anybody in our immediate family about it until the strain of having to see his abuser every day had nearly broken him.
The thing about my grandmother is that you wouldn’t expect at first glance just how ruinous her presence can be. She looks like a generic old lady - honestly, you couldn’t pick her out of a lineup of one.
Public-facing, she’s quiet, and subdued and as my dad put it “an empty vessel”- she had no real interests or any opinions on current or historical events (impressive, given that she’s been alive for nearly a century). When behind closed doors she is remarkably emotionally manipulative in this very needling, accusatory manner, and a perpetual martyr. My grandmother’s exact parting words to my mom (who always maintained a caregiver-patient relationship with her despite her monstrous behavior) were, “Well Suzanne, you’ve done a lot of things for me.”
My grandmother did a lot of damage while she lived with my parents. I think one of the worst things was that she destroyed my mom’s belief that people were inherently good. My mom managed to hold onto that belief her entire life until two years living with my grandmother took that from her.
I know during that time your podcast was very helpful to my parents (my mom still sends me articles about narcissists and other cluster b’s) and I listen every week.
Appreciate what you do!
PS: My grandmother is still alive (95 years), and lingers with my aunt, who is the enthusiastic heir to all her cluster b behaviors. Needless to say, we don’t go to her house for Christmas - or any other reason.
Sounds to me like she did your mom a favor: destroying her belief in the shibboleth of shibboleths: "I am ok, you are ok; everybody is good deep down." It's everywhere. Our world is being destroyed by it!
Now your mom can learn to protect herself from such people.
Recently heard about "Barnum statements" an was wondering if @Josh you had as well. Here is a video (they are trying to raise money to make a documentary) to get everyone to understand how things are just said and have no meaning anymore.
https://youtu.be/oPnF3SxsJ58?feature=shared
I can relate to the long process of changing your mind about a great many things; your listed views were similar to my own. Again, no radical, inorganic change for me, just a long realisation that I can be wrong, and so can the people I admire. I'm still constantly learning and changing my views, and it can be unsettling at times.
Also, the autism. And ADHD. I used to use mumsnet and fuck me sideways if everybody's kid/husband wasn't "ASD ADHD" and all that jazz. Yeah, about 1% probably. Too often it was simply over-zealous middle class women looking to explain their family's malaise in a neat and fashionable way.
Q: Ever change your mind 180 degrees about everything?
1. Born this gay — Used to think it was genetically determined (the classic, steady 10% statistic), but nowadays endocrine-altering chemicals in food/water etc. seem to be creating more androgyny.
However, the response-to-trauma theory probably has some merit, though not all children in dysfunctional families (or groups of people who are exposed to other forms of trauma) turn out gay, so maybe some predisposition exists.
That said, it’s hard to deny that bisexuality is inherent though its expression/repression is culturally contingent: exhibit A is Greco-Roman civ., ca. 1400 BC (Troy/Iliad) - 400 AD.
2. Realized that patriarchy is dead or severely wounded in last 3-4 years (ascendancy of trans movement and feminism).
3. Believed in the welfare state until Covid showed me it’s been co-opted by globalism and maybe was a scam from the beginning (though I still benefit from Disability income, food stamps and public housing so TBH I’m ambivalent).
4. Also since Covid: Republicans/Christians are generally saner than godless socialists (woke Democrats)
5. Covid also showed me that capitalism and socialism are equally dehumanizing, unworkable and cruel. Maybe the answer is small-scale communities as found in the kibbutz or among the Amish.
6. Used to think there was no necessary difference between gay/straight relationships but in recent years I’ve admitted that most gay men are too damaged to establish healthy long term relationships (I’m a textbook case). I could only name a few stable gay male couples I know personally and they’re outnumbered by comparable straight couples.
Thanks for starting this discussion.
Climate/covid/trans etc. All these fake crisis are installed by co-opting our emotions for belief & altruism hence the push for the matriarchy to overcome the patriarchy.
https://rumble.com/v5401ss-cop-26-to-covid-19-two-sides-of-the-same-lie.html
I've only just fairly recently come around on point 1.
I really want to believe it's naturally occurring, I don't think it's *wrong*, but it isn't ideal. I found pornography early, and I was addicted immediately,
furthermore I suspect that my childhood vaccinations (16 shots) had adverse effects on me. I do live with symptoms of asd and adhd, but I'm reluctant to talk about it for basically the same reasons you mentioned... everyone claims to have it, and bringing it up has pretty much always been a mistake. I don't want to scapegoat a condition I don't have, it's pretty uncomfortable thinking about this stuff,
at this point the only thing I'm certain of is: the intentional sabotage of human beings.
I think the hacking term "exploit", is applicable to human nature and psychology. That transhumanist creep Noah Yuval Harari (misspelled probably) was bragging about how humans are hackable animals.
Anyway, excellent writing, thanks. ✌🏻
As you’re a stickler for language, if the menu is in fact offering a non-meat “protein”, then it makes sense to ask “which protein.” As there are large segments of the world’s population that eat a plant based diet and are, in fact, healthier than countries who center diet around domesticated meat, dairy and eggs, being culinarily aware of this isn’t being “preachy,” rather it is responding to consumer demand to have healthier menu options.
Humans have evolved with teeth, digestive systems, and metabolisms for eating and processing meat, as well as plants. We are omnivores, not herbivores. People who eat only plants and no meat are most certainly not as healthy as people who eat both plants and meat.
The biggest things I'm changing 100% on is realizing I treat myself exactly the way my mother did and a lot of things I believed very deeply about myself are actually "fake news" based on childhood programming. I am learning to treat myself as a loving mother would and bigger still to receive love. Politically I haven't changed my view points a great deal but I find myself more aligned with MAGA than the leftie I used to be. I didn't really understand what had happened to the left until Covid and that realization was very destabilizing.
I used to feel bad I hadn't gotten my life together enough to live in my then ideal location--a small leftie city that had an art scene, good locally grown food, maybe a small university etc. Now I'm glad I didn't.
I think the world is full of grey but the “machine” only accepts black and white. I also think we’re living with a lot more evil and the machine wants the evil.
First of all, A YUGE THANK YOU for calling out the everyone has autism BS. I'm sooooo tired of people being described as "on the spectrum" just because they are shy/socially awkward, etc... It is a disservice to people with actual autism and provides others with a convenient excuse for bad behavior. Re Blooming Late, I agree with you on every one of your points. Once the scales started falling they haven't stopped. AUNT KEMIMA is beyond awful. The Democrats are the party of racism.
Well now you are going to have to give us your therapist's information. I want to see him!
dminor4@gmail.com --> email me the deets!
I'm afraid he only serves Vermont. I wish I could clone him, believe me. Do check out the Open Therapy Institute for a recommendation for well-educated, non-woke therapists.
Dammit! Ok, I will.
My wife got Covid a few weeks ago, and I got it from her. She felt poorly for a couple of days, but was back doing aerobics, swimming, and surfing by day three. It was harder on me--exactly like a moderate flu that kept me down for a few days, and left me a bit weakened for a week or two. But so what? Tens of thousands die of flu every year, and nobody does anything special. There is absolutely no good reason to go back to 2020 or 2021 nonsense over Covid. The only reasons are very bad ones--those in power want more, those who stand to make money want more, and those who are uninformed and afraid want everyone else to be afraid, too. It's time for all of this bullshit to stop.
It sometimes seems as if almost every kid is autistic, and will die if he sees a peanut butter sandwich. What the hell happened?
The Karens took over.
"Normal, moral people are naive. They don't truly believe that evil people, or people with bad intentions, actually exist. They believe, falsely, that 'everyone is good deep down.'"
I haven't thought that for a good long time, especially not after learning about sociopathy. So for me it's not a belief that nobody could be that awful, it's a tendency to assume the benign explanation first, until a red flag or two compels me to switch to predator-detection mode.
I'll admit I didn't notice the protein thing, but I can't rule out your observation, either.
As a person professionally diagnosed with autism, I semi-reluctantly accepted it.
But ever since I received the diagnosis I periodically reevaluate it all over again.
I have to remind myself of all the things that make the case so extremely strongly.
So many things that are not routinely at the forefront of my mind.
Like me, so many Autists routinely attempt to function like Neurotypicals just for the sake of sanity and basic survival.
Waitress: “And what protein would you like with your meal?”
Response: “I’ll have the tomato basil grasshopper testicles.”
Waitress: 👀
Response: “If you don’t have any of those for *my protein*, I’ll just have a bottle of diet raspberry scorpion farts.”
Hi Josh,
Re: Point #6 on people being good, deep down
My mom is a devout Catholic oncology nurse, and for her entire life she believed this very thing - that basically, people were good. About three years ago, my grandmother (my father’s mother) came to live with my parents.
My Grandmother was something else altogether: selfish, childish, narcissistic and deeply histrionic. She was abusive to my father as a child, and the types of abuse were very similar to some you’ve shared from your childhood, which is what initially drew me to the podcast. He had never told anybody in our immediate family about it until the strain of having to see his abuser every day had nearly broken him.
The thing about my grandmother is that you wouldn’t expect at first glance just how ruinous her presence can be. She looks like a generic old lady - honestly, you couldn’t pick her out of a lineup of one.
Public-facing, she’s quiet, and subdued and as my dad put it “an empty vessel”- she had no real interests or any opinions on current or historical events (impressive, given that she’s been alive for nearly a century). When behind closed doors she is remarkably emotionally manipulative in this very needling, accusatory manner, and a perpetual martyr. My grandmother’s exact parting words to my mom (who always maintained a caregiver-patient relationship with her despite her monstrous behavior) were, “Well Suzanne, you’ve done a lot of things for me.”
My grandmother did a lot of damage while she lived with my parents. I think one of the worst things was that she destroyed my mom’s belief that people were inherently good. My mom managed to hold onto that belief her entire life until two years living with my grandmother took that from her.
I know during that time your podcast was very helpful to my parents (my mom still sends me articles about narcissists and other cluster b’s) and I listen every week.
Appreciate what you do!
PS: My grandmother is still alive (95 years), and lingers with my aunt, who is the enthusiastic heir to all her cluster b behaviors. Needless to say, we don’t go to her house for Christmas - or any other reason.
Sounds to me like she did your mom a favor: destroying her belief in the shibboleth of shibboleths: "I am ok, you are ok; everybody is good deep down." It's everywhere. Our world is being destroyed by it!
Now your mom can learn to protect herself from such people.
There’s a lot of truth to that.