10 to 15 years ago, if I got cut off on the road, tailgated, or done with any other poor or dangerous driver behavior, I could reliably predict that the driver would be a young man. Today, I can reliably predict that it will be a woman. And not just young women. Middle-aged women too.
No offense to the wonderful ladies who subscribe to your newsletter, because they don't fit this category, but examples of behavior like you describe is one of the reasons I really don't like women very much. Ha ha, even myself, sometimes. Frankly, I stay away from women as much as possible. And don't get me started on working with them - I prefer a man or men any day, and I'm far more relaxed in an all male environment. Women since the 60's have been taught, coached and trained to be nasty tempered narcissists and those who give birth turn their girl babies into clones of themselves and their male babies into whipping boys. I know that's harsh, and doesn't fit all women but far too many are man-hating Dunning-Kruger afflicted harridans. They are to be pitied; most of them can't or won't change.
Crossovers and what’s left of SUVs typically contain this type. This is starting to become a problem with Tesla owners too who insist their car can drive itself. While the system is indeed impressive, it’s far from that stage. Out here there’s the holier than thou “I’m super virtuous and saving the world” attitude. Bicycling has a lot of this arrogance too.
And it’s worth saying the traffic system, which also includes non-motorized users such as bicyclists and pedestrians is a social system that relies on each user cooperating with each other and taking turns.
Throwing this out of balance causes drama and often injury or death. The automobile masks the person inside making it difficult for other road users to identify them as human and instead simply identify them as “a car.” Motorists in return do this to motorcyclists, bicyclists, and pedestrians if they don’t make an effort to show their faces and “humanize” themselves. It’s similar in many ways to online interaction.
Also, seems the more bells and whistles and doodads the vehicle has , especially the blind spot detectors, adaptive cruise control, lane departure warnings, and large buttonless displays which do everything from telling the driver where the closest Starbucks is to climate control. So when something goes wrong often due to their own distractions or over-reliance on the vehicle’s “tech”, the drivers of these vehicles insist it’s not on them.
Automobiles are seen by some as an extension of one’s identity and all these extra features mask legitimate driving skill and both of these are massive disadvantages to regular society when a narcissist grabs hold of the wheel. The status seeking aspect of them encourages the financially illiterate, which includes lots of people with good cash flow, not just the poor, to seek out revolving loans on them which places them into the vicious drive-to-work work-to-drive cycle. Those placed into such financial strain, narcissistic or not, are bound to have issues cooperating with surrounding road users.
I found this quite hilarious because of how true it is. These women are so self entitled, just imagine the vitriol I get from them as a young mom of 3 kids who spent her 20s raising kids rather than serving herself.
One thing I have noticed that these women have done, is they have emboldened the once small group of men who hate and distain women. I suppose at one point, this group of men was small and hardly noticeable. Now I feel like there are a lot of middle aged men who have had too many encounters with women like this and now put all women in this obnoxious category. I thought it funny that you notice these women when driving because I have told my husband numerous times about my encounters with bitter middle aged men while driving. When I am driving and my husband isn’t with me, and I have set my cruise control and I’m just slowly passing a car, about 30% of the time that there is a middle aged man driving that vehicle they look over, see it’s a women trying to pass them and immediately speed up. I can almost hear them grumbling “I can’t let a woman pass me.” I had this theory for a long time but my suspicion was confirmed when my husband and I carpooled with a friend and he was driving and did this exact thing. He realized the driver of the car trying to pass us was a woman and said “I can’t let her pass me!” He sped up from 65 to 85 just to make sure she couldn’t get by.
I guess the point I am trying to make is that I correlate the rise in “toxic masculinity” with the rise of “toxic femininity.” Can we make an island for all of these people to go be miserable together on?
The rise of the female matriarchy. Not a pretty sight. When the oppressed become the oppressor and seek revenge, not merely justice. The dominant groups wielding power always behave the same. It's not limited to one sex, or one skin colour, as the dominant discourse would have us believe. All bad behaviour is being excused because of millennia of oppression, real or perceived.
Female Narcissism: Motorist Edition
No offense to the wonderful ladies who subscribe to your newsletter, because they don't fit this category, but examples of behavior like you describe is one of the reasons I really don't like women very much. Ha ha, even myself, sometimes. Frankly, I stay away from women as much as possible. And don't get me started on working with them - I prefer a man or men any day, and I'm far more relaxed in an all male environment. Women since the 60's have been taught, coached and trained to be nasty tempered narcissists and those who give birth turn their girl babies into clones of themselves and their male babies into whipping boys. I know that's harsh, and doesn't fit all women but far too many are man-hating Dunning-Kruger afflicted harridans. They are to be pitied; most of them can't or won't change.
Crossovers and what’s left of SUVs typically contain this type. This is starting to become a problem with Tesla owners too who insist their car can drive itself. While the system is indeed impressive, it’s far from that stage. Out here there’s the holier than thou “I’m super virtuous and saving the world” attitude. Bicycling has a lot of this arrogance too.
And it’s worth saying the traffic system, which also includes non-motorized users such as bicyclists and pedestrians is a social system that relies on each user cooperating with each other and taking turns.
Throwing this out of balance causes drama and often injury or death. The automobile masks the person inside making it difficult for other road users to identify them as human and instead simply identify them as “a car.” Motorists in return do this to motorcyclists, bicyclists, and pedestrians if they don’t make an effort to show their faces and “humanize” themselves. It’s similar in many ways to online interaction.
Also, seems the more bells and whistles and doodads the vehicle has , especially the blind spot detectors, adaptive cruise control, lane departure warnings, and large buttonless displays which do everything from telling the driver where the closest Starbucks is to climate control. So when something goes wrong often due to their own distractions or over-reliance on the vehicle’s “tech”, the drivers of these vehicles insist it’s not on them.
Automobiles are seen by some as an extension of one’s identity and all these extra features mask legitimate driving skill and both of these are massive disadvantages to regular society when a narcissist grabs hold of the wheel. The status seeking aspect of them encourages the financially illiterate, which includes lots of people with good cash flow, not just the poor, to seek out revolving loans on them which places them into the vicious drive-to-work work-to-drive cycle. Those placed into such financial strain, narcissistic or not, are bound to have issues cooperating with surrounding road users.
Peak Fiat lifestyle.
They’re not just driving motor vehicles. They’ve parasitized non-motorized forms of travel. See the post about the Chair of the Governance Committee
https://sdbikecoup.substack.com/p/registration-closes-today
One of the queens of this narcissism in the alternative transportation “journalism” space is Angie Schmitt.
https://twitter.com/schmangee
I found this quite hilarious because of how true it is. These women are so self entitled, just imagine the vitriol I get from them as a young mom of 3 kids who spent her 20s raising kids rather than serving herself.
One thing I have noticed that these women have done, is they have emboldened the once small group of men who hate and distain women. I suppose at one point, this group of men was small and hardly noticeable. Now I feel like there are a lot of middle aged men who have had too many encounters with women like this and now put all women in this obnoxious category. I thought it funny that you notice these women when driving because I have told my husband numerous times about my encounters with bitter middle aged men while driving. When I am driving and my husband isn’t with me, and I have set my cruise control and I’m just slowly passing a car, about 30% of the time that there is a middle aged man driving that vehicle they look over, see it’s a women trying to pass them and immediately speed up. I can almost hear them grumbling “I can’t let a woman pass me.” I had this theory for a long time but my suspicion was confirmed when my husband and I carpooled with a friend and he was driving and did this exact thing. He realized the driver of the car trying to pass us was a woman and said “I can’t let her pass me!” He sped up from 65 to 85 just to make sure she couldn’t get by.
I guess the point I am trying to make is that I correlate the rise in “toxic masculinity” with the rise of “toxic femininity.” Can we make an island for all of these people to go be miserable together on?
The rise of the female matriarchy. Not a pretty sight. When the oppressed become the oppressor and seek revenge, not merely justice. The dominant groups wielding power always behave the same. It's not limited to one sex, or one skin colour, as the dominant discourse would have us believe. All bad behaviour is being excused because of millennia of oppression, real or perceived.
You sound like my husband, after he’s returned from getting the morning newspapers and coffee at Stewart’s…🙄😉