Aug 14, 2023·edited Aug 14, 2023Liked by Josh Slocum
Regarding Portlandia’s bicycle hysterics.
These folks engaged in what’s commonly called a “die-in.”
The sad irony is that Portlanders brought much of this to themselves. Portland bicyclists have long demanded “protected” bike lanes which have caused (predictable) manufactured conflict zones at driveways and intersections. The installation of these bikeways have benefited a handful of “design firms” with cushy contracts along with activist groups such as People for Bikes and local coalitions and not the intended end users. The bike lane religion so to speak asserts that the more bike lanes that are built, the more potential bicyclists will “feel safer” and thus want to take up cycling.
Despite Portland’s “build it and they will come” mentality, cycling has gone down as new bike ways have been built.
Oregon’s mandatory use bike lane laws virtually demand bicyclists operate in these unsafe lanes. Oregon is also the only state where turning motorists are not legally allowed to merge and turn from bicycle lanes.
On top of that, Portlanders demanded that police virtually not enforce any laws, including traffic laws.
Hi, Josh! Good show last night. Are you familiar with Richard Grannon? A British psychotherapist who focuses on narcissism and trauma. I first “discovered” him on Triggernometry and he has been a repeat guest there. His own You Tube videos are very interesting and informative. I watched this one yesterday in which he discusses how BPD may be over diagnosed as a personality disorder when the person actually suffered from PTSD, more specifically Complex PTSD. I found his argument and evidence compelling because without going into too much personal detail I’ve been dealing with this with my significant other and we’ve been in couples therapy. He had been exhibiting both narcissistic and histrionic traits that someone who didn’t know him for over 40 years might think were BPD. But that did not make sense. Then I learned about Complex PTSD from Richard Grannon and others and it seemed to me that this fits and our therapist agrees. So now he’s working separately with my spouse to expose the deeply buried childhood traumas. I actually know what they are but my spouse is resistant to dealing with the emotions that get triggered now by any perceived hurt by me. I’d be very interested in which Grannon is saying here about the difference between BPD as a personality disorder and Complex PTSD that he says can be treated successfully.
I haven’t been privy to details because I had to take a break from TERFing after a friend I’ve known since high school tried to gaslight me into voting the way he wants me to. He also felt the need to tell me he sounded crazy, of course. So I haven’t been as active in the past week or so. Before that break, I was very much liking a new trend I thought I recognized: real feminists (the once prevalent kind who only want equal opportunities) telling the narcissistic, “queer” feminists to STFU. I’ve been doing it since I found out just how captured academic feminism has become, but only recently have I seen any real pushback. It’s captured by actual female misogynists, who hate men too, and only really want to complain, not improve anything. Basically it seems feminism went the way of PETA: full of assholes who don’t particularly like their cause as much as they love bullying people.
Right on, hun. We can do this. Push the metaphorical demons back into darkness!
I listen to your podcast regularly and wait anxiously for every episode to come out. I have always been too timid to comment on any forum though, and that includes all social media. I am not a timid person though and this episode made me realize why that is. You see, I used to be a Barbara. I am older than you and so social media wasn’t a part of my world as a young mom, but I was the mom who was the volunteer at the school, and the helper on the field trips. I led the youth group at our church as there was a need for that and I enjoyed the job. I was a young mom, but I was a consistent disciplinarian and didn’t allow them to treat people badly or disrespect elders or employees. I have four children and they were well behaved and could go to restaurants and public places easily.
I was a stay-at-home mom, and so I had these opportunities to interact with others around me. I tried to help where I could and just made myself available. While you were telling about the Barbara I recognized my old self and wondered why I don’t do this anymore. Then I remembered what happened to me as Barbara.
In the public school, the teachers mocked me because I homeschooled my children and when I took over a volunteer position to create their art program, they sabotaged the final field trip and refused to even speak to me during the event.
I had a parent call my home and threaten my child because his son was made to sit out the last 10 minutes of recess for throwing mulch at the other children. They later sued the school.
I was called “Karen” because I introduced myself to another woman who happened to be black
These a just a few examples, but I am no longer a Barbara because I have been silenced. I have been yelled at, mocked and shamed. No more. Your episode has encouraged me to recognize and overcome my timidity. You’re correct in this Josh, we need Barbara in our society and not Karen. It has taken me some time to realize what happened and to get brave enough to speak up.
I'm waiting... :-)
Regarding Portlandia’s bicycle hysterics.
These folks engaged in what’s commonly called a “die-in.”
The sad irony is that Portlanders brought much of this to themselves. Portland bicyclists have long demanded “protected” bike lanes which have caused (predictable) manufactured conflict zones at driveways and intersections. The installation of these bikeways have benefited a handful of “design firms” with cushy contracts along with activist groups such as People for Bikes and local coalitions and not the intended end users. The bike lane religion so to speak asserts that the more bike lanes that are built, the more potential bicyclists will “feel safer” and thus want to take up cycling.
Despite Portland’s “build it and they will come” mentality, cycling has gone down as new bike ways have been built.
https://ti.org/antiplanner/?p=20739
Oregon’s mandatory use bike lane laws virtually demand bicyclists operate in these unsafe lanes. Oregon is also the only state where turning motorists are not legally allowed to merge and turn from bicycle lanes.
On top of that, Portlanders demanded that police virtually not enforce any laws, including traffic laws.
https://www.opb.org/article/2023/05/09/portland-oregon-police-reinstating-traffic-safety-division/
Hi, Josh! Good show last night. Are you familiar with Richard Grannon? A British psychotherapist who focuses on narcissism and trauma. I first “discovered” him on Triggernometry and he has been a repeat guest there. His own You Tube videos are very interesting and informative. I watched this one yesterday in which he discusses how BPD may be over diagnosed as a personality disorder when the person actually suffered from PTSD, more specifically Complex PTSD. I found his argument and evidence compelling because without going into too much personal detail I’ve been dealing with this with my significant other and we’ve been in couples therapy. He had been exhibiting both narcissistic and histrionic traits that someone who didn’t know him for over 40 years might think were BPD. But that did not make sense. Then I learned about Complex PTSD from Richard Grannon and others and it seemed to me that this fits and our therapist agrees. So now he’s working separately with my spouse to expose the deeply buried childhood traumas. I actually know what they are but my spouse is resistant to dealing with the emotions that get triggered now by any perceived hurt by me. I’d be very interested in which Grannon is saying here about the difference between BPD as a personality disorder and Complex PTSD that he says can be treated successfully.
https://youtu.be/iNmVkick9SA
Na na na na na! Batgirl, Batgirl.
Or Oracle if you prefer.
I haven’t been privy to details because I had to take a break from TERFing after a friend I’ve known since high school tried to gaslight me into voting the way he wants me to. He also felt the need to tell me he sounded crazy, of course. So I haven’t been as active in the past week or so. Before that break, I was very much liking a new trend I thought I recognized: real feminists (the once prevalent kind who only want equal opportunities) telling the narcissistic, “queer” feminists to STFU. I’ve been doing it since I found out just how captured academic feminism has become, but only recently have I seen any real pushback. It’s captured by actual female misogynists, who hate men too, and only really want to complain, not improve anything. Basically it seems feminism went the way of PETA: full of assholes who don’t particularly like their cause as much as they love bullying people.
Right on, hun. We can do this. Push the metaphorical demons back into darkness!
Josh,
I listen to your podcast regularly and wait anxiously for every episode to come out. I have always been too timid to comment on any forum though, and that includes all social media. I am not a timid person though and this episode made me realize why that is. You see, I used to be a Barbara. I am older than you and so social media wasn’t a part of my world as a young mom, but I was the mom who was the volunteer at the school, and the helper on the field trips. I led the youth group at our church as there was a need for that and I enjoyed the job. I was a young mom, but I was a consistent disciplinarian and didn’t allow them to treat people badly or disrespect elders or employees. I have four children and they were well behaved and could go to restaurants and public places easily.
I was a stay-at-home mom, and so I had these opportunities to interact with others around me. I tried to help where I could and just made myself available. While you were telling about the Barbara I recognized my old self and wondered why I don’t do this anymore. Then I remembered what happened to me as Barbara.
In the public school, the teachers mocked me because I homeschooled my children and when I took over a volunteer position to create their art program, they sabotaged the final field trip and refused to even speak to me during the event.
I had a parent call my home and threaten my child because his son was made to sit out the last 10 minutes of recess for throwing mulch at the other children. They later sued the school.
I was called “Karen” because I introduced myself to another woman who happened to be black
These a just a few examples, but I am no longer a Barbara because I have been silenced. I have been yelled at, mocked and shamed. No more. Your episode has encouraged me to recognize and overcome my timidity. You’re correct in this Josh, we need Barbara in our society and not Karen. It has taken me some time to realize what happened and to get brave enough to speak up.
Oh, Lisa. How sad, and how angering, what's been done to good women and mothers like you.
I appreciate you, and I bet most people who watch the show and read this blog appreciate you too for being Barbara. You are the kind of woman we need.
You're the good ones, and you deserve much better than what you've received.