Readers and subscribers: I’d really like your comments on this one.
Most of the show posts don’t get many comments, so I’d really like to hear from you. You’re welcome of course to comment on anything, but I’m particularly interested in your thoughts on this question featured in the show:
Have you noticed the creeping gay-ification of heterosexuality? Have you noticed that the kind of extreme sex and hedonism that used to be largely restricted to gay kinksters is now being framed as “normal” for everyone?
Please let me know what you see, and what you think about it, below. Thanks for watching and listening!
I would say that what I have seen comes closer to the complete castration of people in fiction. It might just be the kind of genres that I read, but outside of books that specialise in Herms or some such, one of the big features in the science-fiction and fantasy that I tend to see is that no one has sex with anyone. They’re all busy living their lives as starship captains or archers or whatever and they never have sex with anyone at any time and hardly seem interested in it.
“Gay-ification” hmm. I’m hetero through & through.
I’m also a Bible believin’ Christian, so my expectations for marriage & a husband are for a man to love me as Christ loved the church - I don’t find whips or chains to be how Christ loves me.
That being said, I can say that there is a perverseness that used to be clocked, as you’ve pointed out, with the hedonism of the gays that has now crept into even the church (we had a shirtless male pole dancer at a “male Christian conference” this past weekend!!!). You expected to see raunchy behavior & hear obscene jokes if you were around hyper-sexual men like that.
Now, I’ve had a coworker give me unsolicited anal sex advice out of the blue. Another coworker (different job) informed me of her & fiancé’s trysts that weekend which included anal for both of them. I’ve had men say to me that if they were going to date me, I’d have to give at least a little something - usually anal (that has been the huge one I’ve seen normalized. It’s so normalized that some women are shocked when I say that I will never allow it.)
Bdsm is common conversation. I’m frequently having to explain concepts to my mother, who is shocked I know them. You’re “vanilla” which is now coded with “basic, white, straight” as “boring, loveless, sexless” unless you engage in at least a little something “edgy.” You see handcuffs & whips in tv programming all the time nowadays. Riverdale had a teen girl dressing up as bdsm dom for crying out loud.
It’s sick & depraved. Normal, healthy people in healthy sexual relationships don’t have to abuse each other. The stats on regular anal sex alone… my God, it’s horrific on the human body.