You should see the blank looks I get from students and interns when I say boys and men have a confidence problem because women have pushed them into a corner for the last four decades.
It's funny how "strong assertive girl power femmy boss" women apparently have no power to say no to a sexual advance, then call their cowardice and lack of personal accountability "rape" the morning after.
For this reason I lived in fear of my teenage son being accused of" rape" as he came of age in this generation. We had many discussions about this mind set---NOT teaching him "not to be rapey" but to realize HE could fall victim to a life altering accusation and to behave accordingly.
I grew up in the free sex generation ( not saying that was a great thing). But if you wanted to, you did it and if you felt bad about it later you just didn't do THAT again. You didn't accuse the guy of violating you. I was rescued from nearly being "raped" at a party by a friend that knew I was way too drunk and was keeping an eye out for me( a friend's boyfriend) . He found me right in the nick of time in a bedroom with the would be "perps", beat the shit out of them and took me home to my house. An 18 year old real man. I NEVER got that drunk again. Because while rapey guys DO exist, I failed to protect myself by putting myself in that position and likely gave them the impression I was into it ( just knowing myself in those days, but having little memory of what came before the drama). Would I have considered it rape at the time? I don't think so, based on other stupid shit I did and regretted later. I put the onus on myself, and I still think, rightly so. But by today's standard I could accuse those boys and change the trajectory of their lives forever with no accountability on my part and I think that's wrong.
I also think calling these situations rape is insulting to those that are truly raped and victimized.
The solution to that problem is bringing back the idea that sex should be saved for marriage, or at the very least (this is modernity after all) for being "in love". Casual sex has caused the "I regretted it the next day therefore it was rape" phenomenon... Encouraging less casual sex is the only solution I can see to protect young men and women.
I agree with you. I've been in lots of situations, and was drugged and raped once -- I've also been coerced, taken advantage of when I was too drunk etc, and these things are not the same.
Feminists: "I'm a strong and empowered badass, and I don't care about the opinions or desires of **MEN**, because I'm a female badass warrior!"
Also feminists: "He verbally PRESSURED meeeeee! What was I supposed to do, just LEAVE?"
People need to stop saying "The Internet isn't real life!" It was never true. The Internet IS real life, because everything that happens on the Internet happens on Planet Earth, which is the same place where "real life" happens. All the people on the Internet are real people with real opinions and real psyches and emotions (unless they're bots pretending to be people). If someone insults me or provokes me on the Internet, I'm going to feel a certain way about it, just as I would if they had done it in person. The mental and emotional effects of that unpleasant experience are then carried over into the so-called "real world" and will probably influence my future actions in some way...just as they would if the unpleasant experience had happened offline. At what point does the experience become "not real"? Does its realness get lost in translation somewhere?
Yes! I hate the notion that it's not real if it's on the Internet.
From its early days (Usenet and other such message boards) I would hear people say about online jerks, "oh so-and-so is really a nice person in real life." I'm sorry, but if you're a jerk online, you're not a nice person. You're just a coward who hides behind a keyboard so you can bully others.
Apparantly the courts are coming around to the notion that what happens online has real-world impacts. Social media companies are being held liable for negligent design that can cause mental harm.
If you're at a restaurant with somebody and they're nice to you, but not nice to the waiter, then they're not a nice person. Same principle applies online. How you treat people when there are no consequences reveals your character.
I'd say social media is like cigarettes, casinos, or junk food. Ultimately, it's the consumer's responsibility to place appropriate limits on their own usage of the product (or abstain entirely), since no one held a gun to their head and forced them to buy the product against their will. People can say no to some or all aspects of social media usage, just as feminist women can say no to sex if they choose.
‘Gatekeeping rape’ might be the most 2026 phrase imaginable. We’ve gone from taking something horrific seriously to flattening it into a catch all for regret, pressure, awkwardness, and bad decisions. At that point it’s not moral clarity, it’s semantic inflation.
Sometimes the best way to cope with life's dark moments is with humor.
I laugh at how easy it is to trigger the crazies. And at how predictable their responsses are. And yet I worry that there are so many of them who really believe what they're posting.
All of these situations these feminists describe as "rape" are diluting the term. Rape is a very serious, awful thing (and I am very sorry you experienced that). But if we define, "Sleeping with a boyfriend because you're afraid he'll break up with you," as rape, then the term loses all meaning and no one will think of it as the very serious, awful thing that it is.
The same thing has already happened to terms like "racism," "fascist," "Nazi," "misogyny," and the like.
Feeling pressured into sex sucks! I'm sure it feels terrible to wake up with that regret. Is it the same as rape? NO! That's why legally, things like, "Sleeping with your boss so you don't get fired," is not classified as rape but as a different offense. (It's still a horrible thing, of course.)
This is why the whole MeToo movement bothered me so much, especially with all of the woodwork coming out about Harvey Weinstein. Yes, he did sexually assault a lot of girls and that is NOT OKAY. He is a creep and a horrible person. But what I'm talking specifically about are the women who knew that they would get a better chance at a role if they dressed slutty and seduced him, and then turned around and cried about rape and sexual assault.
Lots of valid points here. Regarding MeToo: it appears that the majority of those Hollywood cases were drunken passes in a bar or at a party, which is not even in the same ballpark as rape, and certainly not serious enough to permanently end men’s careers and bankrupt them to boot. So-called victims saw dollar signs and the opportunity to ruin a man’s reputation and ran with it.
Polish feminists in 2014: rape should be subject to public prosecution even if woman doesn’t place request to prosecute her rapist, because rape is most serious crime and woman can be terrorised to not request prosecution
Polish feminists in 2021 (or 2020): ombudsman on University of Warsaw was right that she didn’t inform police about rape reported to her, because questioning by police causes secondary victimization and triggers ptsd of the rape victim. It should be choice of the rape victim
“What about a girl who felt pressured to say yes and gave in? What about a woman who didn’t want to have sex, but was afraid to be rejected by her boyfriend so she gave in? What about a woman who got tipsy and went to bed with her male friend but regretted it later? Don’t I see how he took advantage of her?
All those scenarios, they said, were also rape.”
I cannot laugh because those scenarios are so unequivocally and clearly NOT rape that I am chilled to consider a chorus of people arguing that they are. People are held criminally liable for rape and these people are arguing that the men in those scenarios should be considered rapists. The lack of consideration of the humanity of those men that is harmed by this conception of “rape” makes me feel sick.
Several Christmases ago, a lot of radio stations stopped playing "Baby It's Cold Outside" because some faction of the feminist cult decided it was a rape song. These are the kind of imbeciles you're dealing with.
I was stupid enough to fall for that. The line, "Say, what's in this drink?" made me think it was referring to roofies. But after doing some research into it, I found that that's not even close to actual meaning.
Also, "Neptune's Daughter," the film that the song was first used in, had two sets of couples singing it. The man was singing it to the woman, and then with the other couple, the woman was much more aggressively singing it to the man to get him to stay with her. It was amusing.
In fact, it was a trope in movies at the time. Somebody would say something a bit bolder than they were comfortable with, and when people stared, look down and comment, “Say, what’s in this drink?”
BTW, the movie was not the first place the song was used. Frank Loesser (who wrote I) and his wife used to sing it at parties on a regular basis. She was furious when she learned that he had let it be used in a movie, considering it their song.
There were also international political implications. Sayyid Qutb heard it at one of those parties and was so shocked at the obscenity he perceived (unmarried people planning a sexual tryst) that he became radicalized and joined the Muslim Brotherhood.
Josh, you're the first to say this: you confirm what I've discovered: feminists are narcissists, so are rapists. Our culture denies this ...so makes rape more likely. The rest of your post: excellent, thanks very much, it's so wonderful to have truth telling in our age of lies like this.
Daughter A's lesson: If your boyfriend pressures you to have sex and says he'll break up with you if you don't, and you have sex with him - he raped you! We will file a report. How dare he if he were to do that to you? We'd show him. Men are such pigs. We'll be here for you every step of the way.
Daughter B's lesson: If your boyfriend pressures you to have sex and says he'll break up with you if you don't - you tell him to pound sand and walk away. Why the hell would you want to be involved with someone like that? There are good men out there, and you'll find the right one. You have agency in every relationship you enter into. Exercise it. Learn to discern. Listen to your intuition. Oh, and - life's not fair.
I know which daughter I raised. But I despair of the culture/society that is shaping the victim mentality midwits that call themselves women today.
We probably shouldn’t be surprised: disappointed, disgusted, angry, sure. But not surprised. Because this is depressingly standard fodder, isn’t it?
It’s always all about controlling the narrative to try and enforce real-world rules to benefit their world view. You don’t even get to comment on your own life because it’s not yours any more: they’re in charge now. Or so runs the playbook.
Good on ya for pointing out the hypocrisy: it needs done, and as frequently as the opportunity presents itself. Predictably, the people most likely to shout “gaslighting!” are always the first ones to indulge in it. We don’t have to play their game, though.
Awful to hear what was done to you - thank you for sharing and my sympathy.
What you may also never ever ever do is flip the script:
What about a boy who felt pressured to say yes and gave in? What about a man who didn’t want to have sex, but was afraid to be rejected by his girlfriend so he gave in? What about a man who got tipsy and went to bed with his female friend but regretted it later? Don’t I see how she took advantage of him?
Because in our always female victim, rapey men society, a boy/man can never be raped by a woman. The "scenarios" above wouldn't happen.
Throw a female teacher into the mix.
Throw an older, borderline woman into the mix.
Throw an avowed cougar into the mix.
Throw a female boss into the mix.
With any of the above, of course the male, often younger - sometimes much younger - is always, always going to be "getting lucky". Guys never "don't want to do it". Guys can't get raped by a woman, don't you know.
Women infected by feminism hate men so much and value themselves so selfishly they'll do that sort of hilariously hypocritical behavior in a heartbeat and then think nothing of it. Feminism is just a type of Satanism, which means those infected have a "me me me" mentality that makes them absolutely insane.
You literally can't make this up.
Yet, still, here we are. And it's completely believable that they're saying these things.
The brainwashing is deep.
It's hysterical (in several sense), and I must laugh at it.
But after the laughter, we're left with a very serious problem in our society.
You should see the blank looks I get from students and interns when I say boys and men have a confidence problem because women have pushed them into a corner for the last four decades.
"Noooooo! That snot true! Men rule everything!"
🙄
And we wonder why we have a masculinity crisis.
It's funny how "strong assertive girl power femmy boss" women apparently have no power to say no to a sexual advance, then call their cowardice and lack of personal accountability "rape" the morning after.
Who, then, is the real victim?
For this reason I lived in fear of my teenage son being accused of" rape" as he came of age in this generation. We had many discussions about this mind set---NOT teaching him "not to be rapey" but to realize HE could fall victim to a life altering accusation and to behave accordingly.
I grew up in the free sex generation ( not saying that was a great thing). But if you wanted to, you did it and if you felt bad about it later you just didn't do THAT again. You didn't accuse the guy of violating you. I was rescued from nearly being "raped" at a party by a friend that knew I was way too drunk and was keeping an eye out for me( a friend's boyfriend) . He found me right in the nick of time in a bedroom with the would be "perps", beat the shit out of them and took me home to my house. An 18 year old real man. I NEVER got that drunk again. Because while rapey guys DO exist, I failed to protect myself by putting myself in that position and likely gave them the impression I was into it ( just knowing myself in those days, but having little memory of what came before the drama). Would I have considered it rape at the time? I don't think so, based on other stupid shit I did and regretted later. I put the onus on myself, and I still think, rightly so. But by today's standard I could accuse those boys and change the trajectory of their lives forever with no accountability on my part and I think that's wrong.
I also think calling these situations rape is insulting to those that are truly raped and victimized.
The solution to that problem is bringing back the idea that sex should be saved for marriage, or at the very least (this is modernity after all) for being "in love". Casual sex has caused the "I regretted it the next day therefore it was rape" phenomenon... Encouraging less casual sex is the only solution I can see to protect young men and women.
I agree with you. I've been in lots of situations, and was drugged and raped once -- I've also been coerced, taken advantage of when I was too drunk etc, and these things are not the same.
Feminists: "I'm a strong and empowered badass, and I don't care about the opinions or desires of **MEN**, because I'm a female badass warrior!"
Also feminists: "He verbally PRESSURED meeeeee! What was I supposed to do, just LEAVE?"
People need to stop saying "The Internet isn't real life!" It was never true. The Internet IS real life, because everything that happens on the Internet happens on Planet Earth, which is the same place where "real life" happens. All the people on the Internet are real people with real opinions and real psyches and emotions (unless they're bots pretending to be people). If someone insults me or provokes me on the Internet, I'm going to feel a certain way about it, just as I would if they had done it in person. The mental and emotional effects of that unpleasant experience are then carried over into the so-called "real world" and will probably influence my future actions in some way...just as they would if the unpleasant experience had happened offline. At what point does the experience become "not real"? Does its realness get lost in translation somewhere?
Yes! I hate the notion that it's not real if it's on the Internet.
From its early days (Usenet and other such message boards) I would hear people say about online jerks, "oh so-and-so is really a nice person in real life." I'm sorry, but if you're a jerk online, you're not a nice person. You're just a coward who hides behind a keyboard so you can bully others.
Apparantly the courts are coming around to the notion that what happens online has real-world impacts. Social media companies are being held liable for negligent design that can cause mental harm.
If you're at a restaurant with somebody and they're nice to you, but not nice to the waiter, then they're not a nice person. Same principle applies online. How you treat people when there are no consequences reveals your character.
I'd say social media is like cigarettes, casinos, or junk food. Ultimately, it's the consumer's responsibility to place appropriate limits on their own usage of the product (or abstain entirely), since no one held a gun to their head and forced them to buy the product against their will. People can say no to some or all aspects of social media usage, just as feminist women can say no to sex if they choose.
‘Gatekeeping rape’ might be the most 2026 phrase imaginable. We’ve gone from taking something horrific seriously to flattening it into a catch all for regret, pressure, awkwardness, and bad decisions. At that point it’s not moral clarity, it’s semantic inflation.
Sometimes the best way to cope with life's dark moments is with humor.
I laugh at how easy it is to trigger the crazies. And at how predictable their responsses are. And yet I worry that there are so many of them who really believe what they're posting.
All of these situations these feminists describe as "rape" are diluting the term. Rape is a very serious, awful thing (and I am very sorry you experienced that). But if we define, "Sleeping with a boyfriend because you're afraid he'll break up with you," as rape, then the term loses all meaning and no one will think of it as the very serious, awful thing that it is.
The same thing has already happened to terms like "racism," "fascist," "Nazi," "misogyny," and the like.
Feeling pressured into sex sucks! I'm sure it feels terrible to wake up with that regret. Is it the same as rape? NO! That's why legally, things like, "Sleeping with your boss so you don't get fired," is not classified as rape but as a different offense. (It's still a horrible thing, of course.)
This is why the whole MeToo movement bothered me so much, especially with all of the woodwork coming out about Harvey Weinstein. Yes, he did sexually assault a lot of girls and that is NOT OKAY. He is a creep and a horrible person. But what I'm talking specifically about are the women who knew that they would get a better chance at a role if they dressed slutty and seduced him, and then turned around and cried about rape and sexual assault.
Lots of valid points here. Regarding MeToo: it appears that the majority of those Hollywood cases were drunken passes in a bar or at a party, which is not even in the same ballpark as rape, and certainly not serious enough to permanently end men’s careers and bankrupt them to boot. So-called victims saw dollar signs and the opportunity to ruin a man’s reputation and ran with it.
Polish feminists in 2014: rape should be subject to public prosecution even if woman doesn’t place request to prosecute her rapist, because rape is most serious crime and woman can be terrorised to not request prosecution
Polish feminists in 2021 (or 2020): ombudsman on University of Warsaw was right that she didn’t inform police about rape reported to her, because questioning by police causes secondary victimization and triggers ptsd of the rape victim. It should be choice of the rape victim
“What about a girl who felt pressured to say yes and gave in? What about a woman who didn’t want to have sex, but was afraid to be rejected by her boyfriend so she gave in? What about a woman who got tipsy and went to bed with her male friend but regretted it later? Don’t I see how he took advantage of her?
All those scenarios, they said, were also rape.”
I cannot laugh because those scenarios are so unequivocally and clearly NOT rape that I am chilled to consider a chorus of people arguing that they are. People are held criminally liable for rape and these people are arguing that the men in those scenarios should be considered rapists. The lack of consideration of the humanity of those men that is harmed by this conception of “rape” makes me feel sick.
Several Christmases ago, a lot of radio stations stopped playing "Baby It's Cold Outside" because some faction of the feminist cult decided it was a rape song. These are the kind of imbeciles you're dealing with.
I remember this. I thought at the time, women have become so pathetic. And I, a woman, find myself embarrassed for my sex.
My wife has said the same thing as you.
I was stupid enough to fall for that. The line, "Say, what's in this drink?" made me think it was referring to roofies. But after doing some research into it, I found that that's not even close to actual meaning.
Also, "Neptune's Daughter," the film that the song was first used in, had two sets of couples singing it. The man was singing it to the woman, and then with the other couple, the woman was much more aggressively singing it to the man to get him to stay with her. It was amusing.
You figured it out, but then you're probably smarter than the average bear. Many people can't think that clearly.
In fact, it was a trope in movies at the time. Somebody would say something a bit bolder than they were comfortable with, and when people stared, look down and comment, “Say, what’s in this drink?”
BTW, the movie was not the first place the song was used. Frank Loesser (who wrote I) and his wife used to sing it at parties on a regular basis. She was furious when she learned that he had let it be used in a movie, considering it their song.
There were also international political implications. Sayyid Qutb heard it at one of those parties and was so shocked at the obscenity he perceived (unmarried people planning a sexual tryst) that he became radicalized and joined the Muslim Brotherhood.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sayyid_Qutb
Josh, you're the first to say this: you confirm what I've discovered: feminists are narcissists, so are rapists. Our culture denies this ...so makes rape more likely. The rest of your post: excellent, thanks very much, it's so wonderful to have truth telling in our age of lies like this.
Let's see.
Daughter A's lesson: If your boyfriend pressures you to have sex and says he'll break up with you if you don't, and you have sex with him - he raped you! We will file a report. How dare he if he were to do that to you? We'd show him. Men are such pigs. We'll be here for you every step of the way.
Daughter B's lesson: If your boyfriend pressures you to have sex and says he'll break up with you if you don't - you tell him to pound sand and walk away. Why the hell would you want to be involved with someone like that? There are good men out there, and you'll find the right one. You have agency in every relationship you enter into. Exercise it. Learn to discern. Listen to your intuition. Oh, and - life's not fair.
I know which daughter I raised. But I despair of the culture/society that is shaping the victim mentality midwits that call themselves women today.
oh come on Josh just admit it already, you're a MisogyRaper (5000) and you know you want to misogyrape them all.
now I have to go chop my fingers off for even typing that. bleh.
We probably shouldn’t be surprised: disappointed, disgusted, angry, sure. But not surprised. Because this is depressingly standard fodder, isn’t it?
It’s always all about controlling the narrative to try and enforce real-world rules to benefit their world view. You don’t even get to comment on your own life because it’s not yours any more: they’re in charge now. Or so runs the playbook.
Good on ya for pointing out the hypocrisy: it needs done, and as frequently as the opportunity presents itself. Predictably, the people most likely to shout “gaslighting!” are always the first ones to indulge in it. We don’t have to play their game, though.
Awful to hear what was done to you - thank you for sharing and my sympathy.
Keep calling out the frauds and narcissists!
What you may also never ever ever do is flip the script:
What about a boy who felt pressured to say yes and gave in? What about a man who didn’t want to have sex, but was afraid to be rejected by his girlfriend so he gave in? What about a man who got tipsy and went to bed with his female friend but regretted it later? Don’t I see how she took advantage of him?
Because in our always female victim, rapey men society, a boy/man can never be raped by a woman. The "scenarios" above wouldn't happen.
Throw a female teacher into the mix.
Throw an older, borderline woman into the mix.
Throw an avowed cougar into the mix.
Throw a female boss into the mix.
With any of the above, of course the male, often younger - sometimes much younger - is always, always going to be "getting lucky". Guys never "don't want to do it". Guys can't get raped by a woman, don't you know.
Women infected by feminism hate men so much and value themselves so selfishly they'll do that sort of hilariously hypocritical behavior in a heartbeat and then think nothing of it. Feminism is just a type of Satanism, which means those infected have a "me me me" mentality that makes them absolutely insane.