It is possible to be a member of a demographic group that is being criticized for the group’s typical behavior without taking that personally and getting angry.
As a man, I can hear “men are more violent on average and women have to take that into account”. I can hear it without responding, “Are you saying that Josh Slocum is a rapist?”
As a gay man, I can hear, “Gay people too, not just the interloper trans, are responsible for some very bad woke behavior, and they act like they’re oppressed.” I can hear it without shouting, “Why do you hate gay men and Josh Slocum personally?”
Here are some other demographic groups whose members, I am quite certain, are also capable of hearing these things. They don’t want to hear them. They pretend they “can’t” hear them without taking personal offense. This is not true. It’s self-centered behavior, and it’s a choice.
-Women. They are able to hear criticisms of female-typical behavior and traits without melting down. I will expect them to exercise this ability.
-Black people. They are able to hear criticisms of contemporary black behavior, including criminality, without melting down. I expect them to exercise this ability.
-”Trans” people. They are able to hear that large numbers of their demographic set are mentally unwell and predatory without melting down. I expect them to exercise this ability.
I could continue listing these out, but it would be repetitive.
The claimed “inability” to discern between generalized statements and personal insult or bigotry is nonsense. The claim of having one’s emotions hurt by hearing these statements is also manipulative and out of order.
This is difficult for me to understand. As anyone who reads me knows, I have a bucket-load of insecurities and neuroses. Yet as neurotic as I am, I really don’t feel personally targeted when women observe true things about male-typical behavior.* I truly don’t feel personally targeted when people make true observations about the bad political behavior of many homosexuals.
Why “can’t” so many other people do the same thing?
They can. It’s that they don’t want to, and they are socially supported in not having to hear these things and respond like a grownup. They are socially rewarded for claiming victimhood and aggrieved feelings.
There is no “can’t hear this.” There is only “I don’t want to have to, and I’m going to take full narcissistic advantage of the current society’s coddling of my ego grievances.”
Your thoughts?
*True things. Not made-up and over-egged accusations of “misogyny” and “inclination to rape whenever they can get away with it” that are frequently lobbed at men by feminists.
Spot on. Of course they can. It's not that they can't; they just won't. And they are rewarded for their bad behavior.
This is the Age of Aqu...... no wait.....of Competitive Emoting & Victimhood. https://grahamcunningham.substack.com/