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HUMDEEDEE's avatar

Excellent critique of the reasons why it’s wise and practical to “judge a book by its cover” with regard to people. The feminization of our culture demands being nice over being realistic and heeding the warning signs demonstrably shown of psychological instability. Being nice absent common sense can get you hurt or even killed.

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Yes. I have a personal crusade against tattoos in particular - some mistakes are built to last, and body ink is one of them. No one looks at the alligator on your calf, the blue roses twisted with ivy on your arm, or - Heaven forbid - the scribble above your eyebrow, and thinks, “What a creative, artistic person! I wonder what the deeper significance of *that* tattoo might be!”

No. They hear an alarm bell go off and then try to ignore it in the interests of being “kind.”

I had one black tattoo - smaller than a dime - on my ankle for 10 years, and there wasn’t a moment I didn’t look at it and realize I’d made a mistake. Laser didn’t work, so I finally had a surgeon carve it out of my skin with a scalpel. The scar, and tat-free skin, is better.

The trend now is small “fine-line” tattoos for under $50 that look like doodles. Makes you look no-account, in contrast to the big, full-color ones that make you look like either a criminal or a trust fund baby who went to art school and knows you’ll never have to work a day in your life.

The worst: Tattoos of actual human faces.

The worse-than-worst: A wobbly, homemade tattoo of a woman fisting herself, which I saw recently.

Tattoos, no matter how much you pay for them, age badly. And they slot you into a permanent social category that you (after you’re grown up and emotionally healed from abuse and trauma) won’t want to remain in. I think tattoos can prevent, or even delay, this kind of growth and healing.

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